"I care more to be loved"

I'm sure many of you have already watched the 2019 rendition of Little Women which struck gold in the cinema world with personally many of my favourite actors like Emma Watson, Saoirse Ronan, Florence Pugh and Timothee Chalamet. However aside from its grand popularity, to be dramatic from the second I finished watching that movie with my sister my center of axis completely shifted and I had broken into a new identity.

If you haven't already watched the movie, stop reading because by this time you definitely should have and I'm about to spoil it but the story showcases the main character Jo March along with her 3 sisters Meg March, Amy March and Beth March as they trek their own ways into the expansive world starting in Concord, Massachusetts. Most importantly, Jo wishes to be an incredibly independent women and writer whose main goal is not to marry and bear children but be remembered far after her death for her intellectually stimulating literature. Down the line, after she rejects her childhood best friend's ,Theodore 'Laurie' Laurence, declaration of love she comes to the earth shattering realisation ,after all her sisters are out traveling or married, that she doesn't wish to be lonely for the rest of her life and wonders whether she was too quick in turning him down which ironically contradicts her entire feministic character and background. Many may see this as her strong suit of armour breaking but her back and forth mannerism only further reinforces her as a dynamic and realistic human who struggles through deciding what it is she wants and what it is she should want.

Next she utters the single most significant sentence in the entire movie when trauma dumping to her mother, she confesses to her "I care more to be loved". As a teenager growing and learning in the modern world its definitely exhausting figuring out how healthy relationships and friendships work, when so much of what we consume comes from social media. Especially, since 90% of what is available on social media or the internet is fake so you can find yourself, myself included, longing for some sort of connection that's synthetic and unrealistic. Therefore, my very unprofessional but sincere advice is be satisfied with being by yourself and learn to love yourself before anyone else. Its an incredibly human thing as social creatures to want to feel love and care reciprocated but a relationship that's exclusively built on the other persons love is doomed from the start. Take yourself out to Cheesecake Factory. Go on a 3-mile hike while listening to Emma Chamberlin's podcast. Become disgustingly knowledgable about quantum physics. But overall stay grounded in your own ideals, morals, lessons learned and care more about loving yourself without anyone else's input.